I know that's a very controversial statement and I am probably going to get harder in the comments in making it. However, it's genuine. I do not care if my children like me. I know they like me, also I need them to respect me. However, they don't need to enjoy me. In actuality, if they like me on a regular basis then I'm definitely not doing my job for being a parent. This is the alleged tough love in good parenting.
Wrong and right
Children- our job is to receive our children ready for the whole world. We're supposed to teach them right and wrong, the way to balance a checkbook, the way to do laundry, and how to deal with other people with empathy and esteem. We're also supposed to instruct them that they are not going to get whatever they need. And that life sometimes isn't fair. And that hard workis hard, and sometimes you never obtain yourself a cookie or money at the ending of this. Our children need us to teach them how to navigate life, and sometimes this means doing things that they do not like. Even when they say they despise me, in fact specially once they state they despise me, I know they are learning and that I'm doing my own job.
After I was seven that I drove two dollars out of my mum's wallet. I desired a novel. About horses, I always presume. I asked for the money and she said no. So I took it, and went to the bookstore and bought the book. She captured me later about reading the novel and asked me where I made the amount of money. I whined to her but she already knew I had taken it from her purse. She told me I could continue to keep the book but that I had to make the cash and she gave me a set of chores that needed to be done. My mom took the book and told me I could have it back when the chores were done.
I used to be so mad in her. I had to sweep our long, curling, mountain of a drive and I had been simply raging in her under my breath the whole time. However, once I got old I realized exactly what she educated me this afternoon. And today I do exactly the exact things with my children. They have been learning how to function as operational adults and great folks. Therefore if this means that they think I am the meanest mom living sometimes I'm alright with that. And you should be too.
Responsible Kids
We're not doing our children any favors by choosing the simple path and being their pals. Our children need us to step up and be responsible. To be the adults. Also to demonstrate to them just how to be more engaged, active, honest, empathetic adults who can handle the hassles of life without falling apart. Therefore once you do not say no to the kids or you worry about whether or not they prefer you in the place of whether or not they have been learning you are failing them. Stop being their friend and begin being a newcomer. They'll thank you later on, I guarantee it.